Monday, February 22, 2016

Do you Respond or React?

Along the journey of building a business and growing personally, I have observed a not-so common quality that is probably the most important not only in business but in life as well. That quality is emotional maturity. As adults we consider ourselves mature because have responsibilities or we don't necessarily act "childish." These things don't really prove we are mature emotionally. How we handle uncomfortable situations shows us our tipping point. How do you handle when you have been treated unfairly or when someone has clearly wronged you? Human nature is to immediately react and go into "protect and preserve" mode. There is nothing wrong with wanting to protect yourself but there is also nothing wrong with taking a moment to understand the situation and take the emotion out of it and respond only after thinking everything through, including the affects of your actions or words. Many regrettable situations have been created because of irrational reactions instead of thoughtful responses. The next time you encounter an opportunity to go from "0 to 100" real quick, try to curtail the emotion even if you're justified, and observe what happens. If nothing else, the quality of your own life will improve because in the end, no one is more damaged from our own anger than ourselves!

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Dream it, Write it, Achieve it

After another extended break from posting, I am once again compelled to share thoughts and experiences gained from from being in the "trenches." I have always been the type of person that learned from doing things myself, good or bad. One thing that I can tell you is that if you write your goals down and you have a strong desire to get them accomplished, I promise you, one way or another, the resources will be made available to you in order to help you achieve whatever you want. If you are not familiar with this concept, it may hard to believe. Whether you believe it or not, successful people have used this method for centuries to accomplish great things. I have actually wrote some things down years ago and forgot about them and revisited the list and found that I have done most of the things on the list. I believe we underestimate our potential and give up on ourselves for various reasons. So what if you have not received everything you wanted up to this point. The good news is that you can and you have everything you need to get started: a dream, and a pen to write it down.

Sunday, March 3, 2013

Against the Grain

For anyone involved in a network marketing company, I'm sure you are aware of the myriad of "Online Marketing Gurus" who have tried to convince us that the tried and proven techniques based on universal laws build for building massive teams of distributors are no longer useful. We are now being told that you must "appear" to be an expert online and attract people to you. I agree, you must attract people, but you attract them by doing it first then people will have to respect your results. I must admit some of the articles I've read and videos I've watched, have made some intriguing points but I've always known that there was something flawed with this philosophy, especially when I saw it first hand. A former associate I know was advertising online that he/she could show you how to make millions online...yes millions. The first thing I thought to myself was "why didn't they show anyone on our team to make millions?" or better yet, when did they make it? The answer was they couldn't and they didn't, but after quitting in Network Marketing, they were now an "expert" that deserved to be followed. This was almost laughable to me but the sad thing is, there were poor souls out there looking for a serious proven leader, and ended up with essentially a fraud. This situation actually occurs frequently nowadays, that's why I was encouraged when I read this e-book about the flawed philosophies floating around the internet now about how to really make it in the network marketing industry. This was written by a documented industry millionaire... 7 Lies about Attraction Marketing

Friday, February 8, 2013

Commitment and Character

It has been a long while since my last blog post. I don't know exactly why I stopped but I do know why I am resuming. I believe that if you read enough, you will eventually begin to speak and/or write as well. It seems logical but oddly enough, there are some who believe that reading is not essential or doesn't apply to them. I have read numerous books and I have learned that commitment and character are directly related. If you are committed to a worthwhile cause, by default, you will build character. What is character? may ask...I'm sure it can be expressed in a few definitions but I found one that simplified it for me and drove the point home. Here it is...character means having distinctive qualities that make one recognizable as a person differentiated from others.....WOW! Isn't that what we all want? to be different? to have more than the norm? to live free while others are kept in bondage by their loyalty to being average? Have we committed to what we believe in? If not, why not? Is your goal worthy of your total commitment? If not, change it. It is worth it. The benefits of being committed to something worthwhile will not only build character but it will effect other areas of your life. You will do other things better and feel encouraged to keep doing things better. This can be applied in all areas of our lives. Take a moment and think about what activities you are doing that will build your character and in turn build your life!

Monday, March 15, 2010

Diligence does NOT mean Dull !!

In order to gain anything of significance, especially success in business, you must be diligent. Many people come to a complete halt on the plateau of mediocrity and never leave and then comes the blame...the company, the product, your upline, your downline, your spouse, your whatever. The truth is the majority of people never stick around long enough to reap the rewards that diligence pays. We should look at our businesses more like a buffet rather than a meal that we order at a sit down restaurant. In a buffet, you usually pay first and then partake in the feast of choice, in a sit down restaurant, we enjoy the meal first and then pay. We have heard that anything worth having requires sacrifice. Just because we have a new age of technology that makes some business practices more convenient, does not eliminate the need for patience and most importantly, diligence. If you are bored, you may want to examine your philosophies. Let's look at the Wikipedia definition of diligence:
Diligence - is a zealous and careful nature in one's actions and work, exemplified by a decisive work ethic, budgeting of one's time, monitoring one's own activities to guard against laziness, and putting forth full concentration in one's work.
The thing that stands out to me in the definition is the word, "zealous". The words "dull" or "bored" do not come to mind when we read this definition. What I take from that is, when we are diligent about something, we should have excitement or "zeal" not boredom or complacency. Diligence which is rewarded, gives us satisfaction and excitement, which fuels us to be even more diligent to experience more of the same. We must pay the price of diligence first, and then the rest will come! Have you paid for YOUR buffet first?

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Be Interested !!!

It doesn't take much to notice the amount of effort that people go through to try and sell themselves or their opportunity to you. With the popularity of social media in hyper growth, people are making attempts to capitalize in any way they can and grab some piece of the financial pie that is being created from this phenomena. No matter what the message they are trying to get across or how good their deal is they have to offer, one thing has always and will always hold true: People are not interested in you or what you have to say initially because you have not taken the time or effort to get to know them or anything about them, but you still suggest that you know what the best deal is or how you can help them. How can you help anyone without first knowing what it is they need help with? The answer is, you can't possibly know. So what is the answer? It is simply taking time to get to know the person personally by asking questions and most importantly, listening. This is simple but seldom practiced by people in business today either because of the pressure we put on ourselves to "close" a prospect or by lack of patience. In either case, you will never establish a meaningful, long term business relationship with anyone unless you are first interested in that person. You must be interested in order to be interesting.

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

MLM Mentality for the New Year

For those of you in MLM, if you haven't already,I suggest you read, "The Slight Edge".(available from This will be one of the most insightful books you will ever read.

Most of us have experienced failure and success in business and as a result, we can relate very well to the author. He tells about a plant called Water Hyacinth and how it can grow exponentially in a relatively short period of time. It's growth may not be obvious initially, but it will cover a body of water very quickly.

It's a brilliant way to demonstrate how a typical MLM business owner could explain the potential growth of a network marketing business.

The lesson that I took from the book, in relation to starting a business was that you must be prepared to persevere and withstand any obstacle you may encounter in your business or you simply will not experience the joy and success that diligence brings.

Every person that starts a business wants to be successful. But most people are not mentally prepared to put massive effort into the business until it starts to grow exponentially.

In the case of the water hyacinth, the plant uses the art of leverage to grow each day. Instead of planting its own seeds and waiting, it sends out its own tentacles which enables it to use leverage. Each tentacle produces tentacles and so on, producing more and more growth. It's also the key to success in relationship marketing. Each person we share with opens the possibility of meeting someone who will lead us to the one who will change our business forever.

This is all made possible by using a system. Through leverage, we can grow it consistently over time.

If you are thinking about starting a business, either offline or online, think leverage before you think "I got to get it done by myself".

By thinking this way, you will give yourself room to grow and develop beyond your own capabilities and you will reap the rewards.